Sister

30 January 2007


on sunday, january 30 i organised to go to a music concert in the kirstenbosch botanical gardens with my sister and her boyfriend, my two cousins from england and another old friend of mine who was visiting from england. my sister's boyfriend has a bakkie so it was agreed that we would all meet at my mom's house at 3 pm and then pile into the boyfriend's bakkie to go to the concert. another two friends of mine surprised me and joined us later. the weather was beautiful and we were having a lovely time. everyone had a picnic and a few drinks.

as soon as the concert was over my sister and her boyfriend left and said they would wait for us at the bakkie. they wanted to leave early and avoid traffic. the rest of us wanted to just sit and relax for a bit longer, enjoy the surrounding beauty and each others' company. my friends and i then decided that we wanted to go out for a few drinks. "we're coming with you!" was my cousins' reaction. so, i sent my sister an sms telling her that everyone else wanted to go out and that her and her boyfriend could go home if they wanted. a while later i got a furious phone call from the boyfriend. "where are you?! we have been waiting for 15 minutes?!" it turned out that my sister had not had her cellphone with her and had therefore not got the message. ooops! the boyfriend hung up before i could apologise and the rest of us went out to have a bit more fun.

i arrived home in a fantastic mood. i had been to a bar for the first time in ages and had had loads of fun with old friends and my lovely cousins. then i heard my sister screaming as i opened the front door. she was having a huge fight with my mother. i got dragged into the fight and was told how rude me and everybody else had been to the two of them ... blah blah blah. it was all petty little things that were being brought up and i was angry that first of all my lovely night had been ruined and second of all that my sister's horrid little boyfriend thought that he had the right to lecture me. then the final straw; my sister turned to me and screamed "you dont know how hard my life has been this year!" excuse me?! i saw red and slapped her in the face. how dare she come and try and tell ME, of all people, that HER life has been hard. what about my fucking life?! she has no idea how difficult life can be! and she has no idea what i have been through because she has never shown any interest in me or my life.

her boyfriend and her stormed out of the house that night and have not returned. they did not come to our family new years celebration and my sister did not come to my grandfather's 80th birthday on saturday, january 5 (which was so much fun that it lasted 11 hours - i LOVE my family! ;-). she was the only family member not present. she has completely cut herself off from her family (who are all now furious with her and her ridiculous behaviour) and has broken my grandfather's heart. she has broken my heart too. i saw what was coming, i spoke to her to try and avoid it. all i ever wanted was to have a sister that i could get on with, rely on, a sister who could be my friend. but i have tried too many times now. i will always nurse the hope that she will come to me one day and apologise, try to be friends. i just hope that she doesnt leave it until it is too late.